Your Bank/Life Statement And Learning How To Control Your Mind Elita Sohmer Clayman

Elizabeth Gilbert said “You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way

you select your clothes every day.  This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control

things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.”

Just think what these thoughts mean.

If you are able to select what you think about, you can take away any thoughts that bother you. Sometimes when we are annoyed at something, it keeps popping up in our mind and taking over our sanity. When that happens, I talk to myself and say what does this really matter in the long run? Will I really care about this in two weeks or will I have put it aside and taught myself how unimportant it really is.

Cultivating our own sense of power is a smart thing to do. We have power over what we do, power over what we think, and power over power. We can make our life happier if we cultivate happiness within our own mind and home. We can listen to our intelligent bantering with the different ideas in our mind and then we can select the proper way for us to go. Therefore, we will be able to control anything bad happening to us in the future and anything good that befalls us now.

We have to train our mind to see things in a neater and orderly way. If we do that, then when something out of the ordinary happens to us, whether a good thing or a possible bad thing, we are prepared for this happening and in our preparedness, we gain insight as to how to solve the problem or enjoy the greatness of the event.

I have a dear friend who is a medical person. She works at different facilities on different days each week. There is a schedule setup and she tries to not plan things on her work days to interfere with the facility’s work time. She will tell them weeks in advance if something has popped up with her child and his needs of her as his mom. She is a single parent, so she does not have a spouse to take over when she cannot do what is necessary. Her employer does not care about her personal life; he and his office manager know only their needs because that is how they run this business. They are not keen enough to realize that “if you have happy employees, you have good and willing to do their job well employees.”

When she tells them many weeks in advance, that something unchangeable will happen on so and so date and she as a mother and member of certain boards of medical associations, cannot work that particular day, she gives them plenty of notice so as not to leave them in a lurch, as the expression says.

They do not care how much notice she gives them, they are angry. They told her if she cannot work for instances on every Thursday for the month of June, then forget it, they will get someone who can.

Of course, they employed that someone and now she in turn has just told the boss, she cannot work on certain days. The employers texted the first person and gently invited, practically insisted that she come back on the same original day she told them she could not be there. They realize that the one who took her place now cannot work that same day. They in their own limited wisdom, ask her can she work on the same days she told them no about several months ago. The story goes round and round and they try to make her out to be uncooperative because she still cannot work those days. Those days were taken over by another person and now she is backing off of them and they are trying to make the first person feel guilty.

Little do they know that she will be starting her own office and she will really not be working for them at all. They say things go round and come around into a complete circle or happening.

Closing your eyes to things and not being able to control one’s thoughts is a form of non-control of your mind. This person controlled her thoughts and mind when she told the employer she could not work perhaps on most Thursdays because she had to do something on those days. The something was a thing for her child and this was necessary for his mental and physical development. What kind of Mom would she be if she neglected things to help him mature into a fine young man who she wants him to be.
 

When we are able to separate our work obligations and our home and social obligations and move them both in the right direction; then we have matured and should be hoping that the people we work with or for can do the same thing. In this case, the owner of the establishment is unable professionally to take over the medical person’s workload. When we had our pharmacy for twenty-three years, if our employee, one of our pharmacists was ill or unable to come to work; my husband and his partner, his brother-in-law who were pharmacists could immediately work and no loss was incurred in service to our customers or the community. When we took dance lessons, if the teacher had other obligations and we still wanted our lesson, another teacher could step in (pun intended). When the bookkeeper was ill, I who had bookkeeping experience from when I worked many years ago could step in and do the payroll or do the billing etc.

If someone runs a business and he is unable to be ready to step in when there is absence or illness that becomes a problem. In this case of my friend, she is a medical doctor and the owners of the facility are business people and not medical persons. They have an immediate problem and that is what they need to control their mind and thoughts about. They should have a person in reserve that wants some part time work and can carry on for the missing employee. If there is not one in the reserve waiting list, then problems ensue, and there are bad thoughts between the employee and the owner/operator of the institution.

When I worked at a printing company over fifty-nine years ago, both the bosses who were now CEO’s of the company could still jump in and run the printing machines and any other work related machinery, because that is how they started out by doing all the manual work. They did that for many years, probably twenty years and when business progressed they were able to hire other men to do that work.

I know of a nurse who runs a nursing service by providing nurses for people who need them at their homes to assist elderly people who reside there. If a nurse is unavailable and every other nurse working for her is busy, she is able along with her sister who is also a nurse, to fill in for the emergency that has just come about. She does not hesitate to go to the home of her client and stay there with the patient until another nurse is available.

People in business have to realize that their needs are not always the primary requirements for their employees all the time. The employee will do his or her best to accomplish their job; but once in a while; personal requirements may have to come first.

Many years ago, I was at a dance competition and the studio owner was going to compete with his students in different heats (competition events). He did in the morning sessions, but when the afternoon heats were to occur, he got a bout of Asthma and he could not breathe well enough to dance with the ladies. He informed them that Jack, one of his teachers who was open at those time slots could try to dance with them and hopefully they would be able to win the event. He was able to make them happy since they had paid lots of money to come there in New Jersey, travel expenses, dance expenses and mind thoughts too. All agreed and they went out to dance with Jack and funny or wonderful thing  was present and each lady, about twelve of them, one at a time, won an award for their dancing in that session. The ladies were all ecstatic because the trip was not ruined for them, they had fun, they won, they accomplished and the stand-in teacher was able to guide them into a winning situation. Everyone was happy and fulfilled.

Controlling your mind, thoughts, desires and needs is important and especially needed in many situations. As the saying above states “Select your thoughts the way you select your clothes.” You have that power to control your mind, thoughts and happiness. Your clothes make you well dressed either causal or formal; your mind control makes you well versed, intelligent and happier. You are in command and you are the master or mistress of your mind. The old saying says “that a mind is a terrible thing to waste.” Bank your good thoughts for when you need them and use all the rest to benefit your days and weeks as you require them. Your bank’s worth will be a mind full of many pluses and your bank/life statement will be always ‘balanced.’